Couples Counseling
Because what happens between you matters.
The goal isn’t to never struggle.
It’s to know how to find your way back to each other when you do.
You may find yourselves having the same argument again and again, struggling to communicate, feeling disconnected or alone, or wondering how you became more like roommates than partners. Over time, couples can fall into patterns where each person’s response unintentionally makes the other feel even more disconnected. The cycle becomes the problem—not either partner.
Couples therapy gives you the opportunity to step out of a cycle and slow things down. Together, we’ll look at what’s happening between you, what each of you is trying to communicate, and what keeps getting lost in the process. I’ll create space for both of your experiences and perspectives while being honest and direct about the patterns I see.
My goal isn’t to take sides or teach you how to have a conflict-free relationship. It’s to help you understand one another more deeply, communicate in ways that feel more productive, and learn how to repair when things inevitably go sideways. Whether you’re working through a difficult season or simply want to feel more connected, our work will focus on creating a relationship that feels intentional, secure, and more like the partnership you both want.
You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are
and change the ending.
C.S. Lewis
What Brings Couples to Counseling
Communication Breakdowns
Parenting Differences
Life Transitions
Broken Trust & Unhealed Wounds
Financial Stress
Emotional Distance & Disconnection
Recurring Conflict Over the Same Issues
Intimacy & Sexual Concerns
Feeling Unsupported or Unseen
Whatever moving forward looks like, we’ll start where you are.
Here is what you can expect -
Intake Session
The first session is an opportunity to hear your unique story and get to know one another to understand what brought you to therapy. Typically we will discuss your relationship history, current concerns, areas of connection and disconnection, and what change looks like for you.
The goal of the first session is to begin to establish trust in the room and set the groundwork for meaningful change.
Follow Up Sessions
Follow-up sessions give you and your partner space to build on the work you began in your initial session. You’ll explore relationship patterns, strengthen communication, work through areas of conflict, and develop practical tools to support a healthier, more connected relationship.
Couples therapy is a collaborative process. The therapist isn’t there to take sides or decide who is right or wrong. Therapy provides a structured environment where both partners can better understand one another, identify unhelpful patterns, and work toward meaningful change.
Questions? I’ve got answers.
Frequently asked questions —
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A couples therapist’s role is not to determine who is right or wrong. Instead, the therapist works to understand both partners’ perspectives and help the couple identify patterns that may be contributing to conflict.
Therapy should provide a balanced environment where both partners have an opportunity to feel heard, understood, and respected. The focus is typically on improving the relationship dynamic rather than assigning blame.
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Couples typically schedule sessions more frequently at the start of therapy. This can often be weekly or bi-weekly, depending on the goals and timeline of the couple. Ideally couples will make desired progress and move towards a maintenance model where they attend therapy less frequently, often in a monthly or every 6 week model.
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Couples therapy can be helpful for many relationships, but it may not be the right for everyone. If there is ongoing physical violence, coercive control, intimidation, or fear for a partner’s safety, traditional couples therapy may not be appropriate. In these situations, individual support and safety planning should come first.
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Yes, couples therapy is confidential, similar to individual therapy. We will discuss confidentiality in the first session and I will share with you legal and ethical exceptions related to safety or reporting requirements.
If individual sessions happen outside of the couple, we will discuss all aspects of confidentiality before those sessions occur.
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It’s common for partners to have different feelings about therapy. If your partner is hesitant, forcing them to participate is unlikely to create a productive therapeutic experience.
You can still seek individual therapy to gain perspective, learn healthier ways to communicate, and explore what you can control within the relationship. Sometimes, one partner’s willingness to seek support can create an opportunity for the other partner to become more open to counseling over time.
